Secret Loves of Geek Girls collects the personal stories and anecdotes from a variety of women in fandom: game designers, fangirls, comic creators, journalists, historians, and sci-fi writers all share their intimate stories of their experiences with love, sex, and dating.
From the first discovery of Sailor Moon’s sexual appeal to using video-game streaming to maintain long-term relationships, the loves of women in fandom are diverse and passionate, just like the women themselves. (synopsis from the back cover of book)
I absolutely loved this anthology! It was so great to read these diverse stories from such awesome, geeky women.
I have always felt that nerds and geeks go about finding love differently than other people. Being a female nerd can be difficult at times. We often find ourselves at odds with the general narrative of what a woman should be. We obsess over who was the best Robin, or the stats of our elven ranger in D&D–obsessions generally considered masculine. So it takes a special kind of person to really catch our attention, for winning our hearts is never enough. They must also have compatible minds. They don’t necessarily have to have the same fandoms, but they must understand what it is like to love something as much as you love Doctor Who.
I saw myself in so many of these stories. Even if my sexual orientation didn’t match with theirs. (Yes, there are multiple sexual orientations and types of relationships in this book, which makes it even more of a must-read.) I was saddened by their heartaches, and uplifted by their triumphs. Reading stories about the these women’s insecurities, and how they overcame them,–or are working through them–is uplifting and inspiring.
Many of these stories focus on becoming comfortable with who you are. A task that I found difficult during my college years. Hell, I still find it difficult sometimes. Sometimes this means figuring out your sexual preferences. Sometimes this means looking for love in different places. However, there is a common thread running through all of these stories and that is that, no matter what, we need to surround ourselves with people who love us for who we are; and we need to love ourselves. Down to every last piece of badly written (or so we think) fan fiction.